The need for MORE sleep is a very
real issue for families when parenting infants. This lack of sleep results in
an environment of stress and tiredness in the family.
If your baby/child is unable to be
put to sleep without your constant attention – a habit develops. This inability
to know how to settle your baby/child is the beginning of a cycle of
dependency. This dependency is often
the result of trauma at birth; feeding difficulty, colic, reflux; or general
emotional anxiety of the mother. It can
also stem from sickness or illness associated to either the baby or the mother
or environmental and social changes within the family. These all trigger your baby/child to think
there is something wrong and start the cycle or loop of co-dependent behaviour.
Pretty soon the constant behaviour
from you the parent caring for your baby/child develops into over caring
behaviour and you and your baby lose the ability to know what the correct
approach to use is. Confusion sets in
for everyone.
Learning how to settle your baby calmly
is the first step. This allows the baby to naturally access their innate cycle
of feed-play-sleep pattern. The KIDSCODEŽ process shows you how to achieve this quickly. This natural cycle sets
your infant in good stead for calmer behaviour, which enhances their potential
for growth emotionally and physically. This is what we all want.
The alarm bells sound when parents
decide that they have a problem with sleep if their child does not sleep at
night. I always say that night time sleep is about the daytime levels of stimulation,
which affects their sleep pattern.
I wonder whether this story sounds
familiar to your story:
I remember clearly the day that I
called Jenny; little did I know that my life would be changed so positively
forever. I knew Lucia’s crying wasn’t “normal”.
I had tried so hard to do
everything I thought was required as a “good mother”. My own mother’s belief
systems which had been unknowingly passed onto me included, to stay at home and
look after your child and everything would be ok, would be perfect.
Being a resilient type of person, I
put sleep deprivation and anxieties aside. I took the martyr approach and in
doing so tried so hard, too hard to care for my child. I was fearful of “doing
the wrong thing”. Timing everything had to be perfect. I was jumpy about
anything that may wake the baby.
I allowed myself no relaxation of
the mind, and was too scared to leave my child with anyone else even for short
periods of time. I had to be in control of everything. Lucia was tired and over
stimulated.
Jenny taught me her process of
letting go; of letting go of control and of the importance of sleep and limited
stimulation. I was engulfed with relief. Her process enabled me to let go of
all preconceived ideas and beliefs and to go back to the basics in order to
create a calmer, happier environment for everyone.
Her process removed confusion and
anxiety and replaced it with a trust for who I was and who my baby was. It in
no way removed the intimacy that you share with your child, but enhanced it
with a more loving, nurturing, respectful way of caring that is beneficial for
everyone that it touches.
I will be eternally grateful for
the empowerment, the calmness and the enhanced relationship that I have with my
child, and that my child and I will have with the rest of the world as a result
of being touched by Jenny’s process.
KIDSCODEŽ Baby Process helps
parents of infants in crisis with sleep problems. It is based on creating the space necessary for both parent and
infant by ‘centering’ - it gives the child time to prepare for sleep by slowing
things down which allows for the relaxation and healing filters of the brain to
take over and makes transition to sound sleep easier.
